One of the unspoken functions of parents and teachers with regard to their children and students is to guide them in ways that keep them from making huge mistakes that will forever blight their lives and their futures. Despite the prevalence of laws and devices [such as seatbelts, automobile airbags, campaigns against drugs and underage drinking], both parents and teachers are at best losing ground slowly, and at worse losing it far faster.
Teenage pregnancies continue to abound; drug and alcohol abuse remain high; high school drop-out rates remain high; actual educational achievement is far lower than test scores indicate… the list of continuing and growing problems is far longer.
How did this all happen in a nation with the resources and wealth of the United States?
I’d be the first to admit that there’s no single “cause,” but I’ll also submit a causal factor that I don’t see any social or political entity addressing in a meaningful way or on a national scope.
It’s very basic. In a national effort to motivate young people, our culture has either ignored or forgotten to teach them one fundamental truth: all actions have consequences, and the consequences of many actions are irreversible.
Oh… we tell them that all the time, but we undo the effect of the words by giving them “second chances,” extra credit, do-overs, and the like. Even our day-to-day technology undermines the law of consequences for young people. Back a generation or so, if I made a typographic error on a paper, I either had to fiddle with White-Out or retype the entire page from scratch, if the error was bad enough. And if you were using carbon paper to make copies, there was no choice. You re-typed the entire page. If there’s an error now, just back-space, or use the mouse or the appropriate key-strokes to click “undo.”
Intellectual property theft or misappropriation [otherwise known as plagiarism] used to be automatic grounds for academic dismissal. Now, in many institutions, the punishment is failure on that paper, if that, and a do-over.
My wife the professor sees college student after college student who, after getting a bad grade – or missing a test – wants to know what they can do to make things up or get a better grade, looking for an “undo” button in life. She can’t count the number of students who ignore their advisor’s advice about the classes they need to take to graduate… and then complain that they’ll have to spend another year or two to get their degree [because in our higher educational system, faculty can’t insist on a student taking a particular course, even required ones; they can only keep them from taking higher level courses or withhold degrees for failing to meet requirements]. The thought that there are consequences for failure is almost beyond many students. And, then, when this does happen, they all want an exception because their situation is “special.”
Back in the bad old days, when I was in college, if you were an able-bodied male, there was a definite consequence for failure – being drafted and sent to Southeast Asia – and almost no one was “special.”
This failure to understand consequences goes far beyond classes. There are consequences to using a cell phone or texting while driving. Despite the fact that thousands of teens are injured or killed as a result of inappropriate cellphone and IPod use, the deaths go on. And that, to me, is entirely understandable, because we as a society have inadvertently taught them that everything bad can be “undone.”
And most of them believe that, at least on a subconscious level, until they’re confronted with a situation that can’t be undone… and by then it’s usually too late.




